NTA. NTA she was totally unconsiderate to you. NTA like at all. These guys are bullies. ESH except your fianc. Who wins out of this? Tim is your family, and family stands up for each other and help them with a tire change, not slash them. Hiding an inhaler? He stole my moms car a few times and stole from me. "Let bygones be bygones" because you'll essentially be telling your fiance that your asshat family members fucked up view of entertainment is more important than him. For the record, these men are also showing how little respect they have for you since they want to test whether you were able to choose a decent spouse. Good on you for putting your foot down. Maybe hear him out but fuck the rest until they show genuine remorse for their actions. Does your idiotic family not understand that they could have ended a human life cause of pranks ? Why are these guys hanging up to keep OP from a healthy relationship? Yep. I thought the exact same thing. Saran wrap on the toilet bowl, bucket of water over a door, recorded fart sounds played in a ghostly manner. He could have died. They want to live like Neanderthals they can do it elsewhere, not at your wedding. I agree. It, however, turned into full no contact with my family back when I went to college the first time. This guy could describe all of this behavior to a third party and leave them thinking hes being stalked by a violent gang after witnessing a crime. On of my very adult colleagues is called "Timmy" by everyone, and if you call him "Tim" he'll (nicely) correct you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; give us both sides of the story, and find out if you're right, or you're the asshole. Not a prank. I would have cut them off after them slashing his tires already. He was not working and she had just retired from the military. yeah, what kind of balanced human being needs to ask reddit if this kinda shit is ok? Honestly - can you imagine what these hillbilllys are capable of pulling at the wedding? These arent pranks. HIDING HIS INHALER? Or the time they slashed his tired??? NTA. NTA by far. Time to cut those toxic people out of your lives. The way he calls you failure is super not okay You do what is right for you and go ahead and uninivite him. NTA. So according to your family, I (a woman) am a man cause I can fix tires, cause obviously that's a manly man thing and not just a question of interests and acquired skills? Is this the future you want? This is a really bad troll. It's a little weird to feel like this age group of men relies on women to negotiate between them in order to discuss momentary weekness. That would instantly be NC for me. Pff too easy. I was his tail as a child and went with him everywhere, people knew me as the apple of his eye. They literally slashed his tires? Likegrown ass adults? Throw away your family for Tim's sake. Just a rug sweeper cause family.. That's only if they were "man enough" to tell her the truth. Time to tell dad that people find him to be a thug and a criminal and don't respect him because he treats people badly. What did they expect to accomplish? What they did was just so cruel. It was a blast. People can die from asthma attacks, especially if they dont have access to their inhalers. Except that the fiance's side of the family hasn't done anything wrong that we know of, and maybe OP and her fiance want a wedding. NTA-a set of tires can cost $1000 to replace. NTA, the men in your family are full blown psychopaths. Please evaluate whether you want them in your life. My relationship with my stepdad has been problematic from the very beginning. YTA. Has still he come backOK I am calling the police..God I hope nothing has happened to him.. Who slashed tyres as a prank? Sorry, this post was deleted by the person who originally posted it. This x10000000000000000. Who the hell slashes tires as a "Prank" unless you're millionaires? First have the conversation with your fianc if he even wants them there. So very, very not normal. Amen. You dont mess with someones health. My dad (50 M) and I (24 F) have had a complicated relationship. You did not ruin your relationship with your family. They werent pranking Tim, they were bullying him. Wtf ! I am sure they have along with the mother. I moved out and left them to take care of my younger brothers by themselves and went full no contact for years. That kind of behavior is toxic and pervasive. Im sorry but the men in your life sound like misogynist AHs, leave them in the dust where they belong. And if you decide to have kids one day, how do you think they will treat your innocent children to toughen them up. Leave these people far behind! Heaven forbid you have a son that needs an EpiPen with these monsters around. Honestly.. ESH except for your fianc because you let them abuse him for so long. I'm surprised he wanted to go on a 3 day trip with them after everything else they've done to him. I might have bailed by now. I was so mad at the timing of that because I couldn't do nearly as much as I wanted to on that trip because of that unexpected expense. This. Very NTA. They could of killed him. OP, this already is a wedge. NTA. I wonder how they were planning to bring the house down at the actual wedding. If I were Tim I'd be questioning the marriage with a hostile family like that. They are POSs. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. "Access" is all well and good until you wind up at an out-of-network emergency room. Think of your incredible fianc. Family up and ruined the relationship with her and her apparently saintly fiance who still wants to marry her after all of this and hasn't had these people arrested. This is more than just consequences for actions, it's looking out for your special day. And the inhaler is really helpful but they probably wont need to call an ambulance if I dont have it and cough we dont know that my bronchi will stick with inflamed enough to not be able to talk or move around doing tasks of daily living. Its not something that keeps me up at night, even if I have recently started coughing outside the house (before COVID) when I didnt have my inhaler because I hadnt needed it when I didnt have a cold for years. You need to take your fianc and get the hell away from the pack, because theyre already turning on you now that youre stepping out of line and it will only get more vicious. These are not pranks. should've paid someone a couple hundred an hour to change them and then took them to court with the bill honestly. If anyone did this to my husband I would have saw red. Who stands up for what is right? They were so busy feeding their egos that it didn't occur to them that they were jerks who were committing a crime when slashing tires and seriously risking the fiances life when they hid his inhaler. Your fianc doesnt need to prove anything to any of them. Hiding his inhaler on a days camping trip? They fucked up. Tell Tim that loving you is not a free invitation to be disrespected. Slashing tires and taking an asthmatics inhaler is not typical. I really hope you make them pay for the tires they slashed. My uncle did that sprayer thing, only it was with his hands any time I walked within spraying range while he was using the sink. Yeah- it bothers me that OP calls slashing someone's tires is "a prank". OP your brother father and uncle all sound terrible with a very strange idea of what constitutes manliness. From the get go they assumed that Tim is "less of a manly man than them" so all those "tests and pranks" are just there to humiliate him and stroke their own over inflated ego. This is what its like to be part of a narcissists world. If you haven't already apologized for being such a coward that you let your family bully him to the point of actual danger to his health then I suggest you do so now. Please keep discussions within the posts of this sub. I wouldve called it quits way before the inhaler incident. My cousin is begging that we talk, my uncle has been quiet, but dad is so mad and now he's getting mom involved to get me to reconsider this decision. Did they pay for the tyres? Put it on what respect can Tim, and YOU, possibly have for them after this? She's not bordering on it, she's well over the border. Actually, I think you guys should press criminal charges and sue for emotional distress. See our ~~*Best Of*~~ "Most Controversial" at /r/AITAFiltered! Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post. Some people say they just don't want to scare you and fear you'll refuse the treatment (or they just don't want you to ask questions they'd have to answer). If her family doesn't kill the groom first. If a person disrespects your partner, then they're disrespecting you too. NTA This is so much an echo of my own life. Sounds like he's put up with so much already for your sake. (English is not my mother tongue, sorry for the spelling), So if he had an asthma attack, and had to be hospitalized, I guess they would deduce hes weak? Privacy Policy. I get that families can sort of haze newcomers, but slashing tires? Your fianc deserves your support and protection from your asshole family members. Are you at peace with the no contact and okay with never seeing your dad again? But you and your fiance know it could have easily been fatal. Go no contact. Yea those are pranks. NTA and what they are doing is bullying and not playing pranks. I have never been a cryer but I've shed more tears because of my dad than laughs with him. Yes. Stand up to your fianc. Your fianc needs to know you have his back when it comes to people who are so awful to him for no real reason. Not this shit. And they certainly already dont like him, considering the names they have already called him. I have mild asthma and have never needed a hospital (its either exercise induced, or triggered by my having a cold or something and my immune system deciding that while its doing inflammation anyway why not go into bronchitis for 2 months?). Not the husbands. These are the intensifyingly cruel acts of a mob towards someone they view as an outsider. NTA, but your fiance deserves a better woman. Just as an aside, do you know what it is like to try and stand up, do the right thing, or even just express a new opinion, and have people laugh you off or talk over you just because you're a small, female-born, young-looking individual? Hiding an inhaler can cause DEATH. NTA and you made the right decision sticking up for your fianc as he is obviously madly in love with you to put up with your families bullshit. Lets kill his dog to see if he burys his emotions like a real man! People who havent felt like that cant understand just how scary it is. He had healthcare. madera county sheriff log 2022 cigna stock price history; hornby r3207. Those men are beyond toxic. Tires are expensive to replace, and not everyone gets lucky finding good replacements secondhand. Your poor fianc has been suffering. Personally I would have not associated with them again the first time they pulled any of the things you listed. Stop trying to make him love you. I will say though - you NEED to go to bat for him more. I see other people saying this is not pranks but bullying and im like bruh they hid his inhaler!!! These aren't "pranks" and what sort of fucking adult even "pranks" people anyway. Especially with your dad, who will apologize but will lose respect for him. Asthma is scary as hell! OP's family are criminal thugs who are endangering his life. Please tell your husband that intractable pain of any kind needs to be seen. Put it back on them. My brother freaked out saying it was a prank and they were going to give it back, Dad said they'll apologize if I insist but Tim will have lost the little respect they'd gained for him and in their eyes will always be "the soft college kid" who's not up for the challenge. Really. They're not joking, they are asshole bullies. Cut these toxic shits out of your life before they kill someone. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Maybe consider a destination wedding? However you are a huge AH for letting it get this far. Honestly the fact that you're asking that question makes me wanna call you an asshole. NTA- for un-inviting your dad, cousin, brother, and uncle from youre wedding. I cant imagine how they will treat your kids. Stand your ground; theyre wrong, and ridiculously immature. He TOLD ME that hed be taking my car and I should take the train. And to add, men who are testing his manliness are the exact kind of men that dont have a clue what it means to be a real man. Because it sure as hell isn't Earth. Keep your nice shiny spine and keep standing up for your partner. You know what OP's group of male family members are doing? I'm really scared that your family will accidentally kill someone with this mentality. Oh he's dead! OP, you need to absolutely stamp out your family's behaviour or risk losing a great guy who sounds as if he would go to hell and back for you. The men in your family are among the worst types of people and I feel terrible that your fianc had to endure that much before it was finally stopped. 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